When your food is missing and your roommate is the only one to blame…
Should Guns be Allowed On Campus?
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This is a great article talking about gun rights on campus. Meanwhile though, we’d love to get your guys’ opinions on the matter: should people be allowed to carry guns on campus? We’ve got a few pros:
- In a situation like Virginia Tech or the movie theater shooting in Aurora, people innocent, sane people would also have a weapon to turn to in order to protect themselves and take down the crazy person with a gun.
- As the article mentions, there’s a difference between feeling safe and being safe. Many feel that if people were allowed to carry guns the environment would be safer overall.
- College freshmen are the same age as high school seniors. Would you feel comfortable giving someone with the maturity level of a high school senior access to their own gun?
- There is a lot of drinking and drug use that typically happens on college campuses. We’re not saying everyone does it, but we’re definitely saying it happens more than it should. We don’t know about you but we don’t quite feel comfortable with a dorm party going on across the hall where alcohol and guns are both in the same room.
- Suicides are rampant during college years. Many students feel completely lost during this time in their life. Combine that with the feeling of failing a class and breaking up with your high school sweetheart, then throw a gun in the mix; would the suicide rate increase with better access to more lethal tools?
Of course these are just a few things we thought of off the top of our heads, so we’re looking for input! What do you guys think? Reply with your opinion, or if it’s too long for the answer box shoot us a message.
So go for it: do you think concealed guns should be allowed on campus?
Think your dorm room sucks? Just be happy you don’t live here:
And in the meantime, maybe find some stuff to make your dorm a little more awesome.
Could you guys handle a room like this?
Roommate of the Week: The Thief
Recently, I got a message inquiring about some decorating questions. Here’s part of the message, submitted by ladyinshiningarmour:
"…any advice on how to refrain from screaming bloody murder next time I find one of the "divas" pilfering my drawers for the right shade of eyeshadow.?"
Although this is a pretty common occurrence. My junior year, I had what I call a “sheet room” in the house; meaning I didn’t really have a room of my own. I was living in the downstairs living room and had hung sheets from the ceiling as “walls” for my room. One day I saw one a photo on facebook of my roommates all out at a bar while I was out of town, and they were all wearing my clothes. Talk about instant fury.
ladyinshiningarmour's situation is a bit different though, as her roomate is actually an 8-year old cousin (she lives with her grandparents), but I still think some of these thieving roommate fixes will be just as effective for either age group. Let's start with the mildest of confrontations and work our way up from there.
Option 1: Evaluate the situation. Your buddy took a slice of cheese? He used your extra game controller when his brother came to visit? Your roomie used your fingernail clippers while you were at class? Grow up. These people are being completely reasonable; you’re out of line. Come home to find your mattress in the living room so your roomie’s high school best friend has a place to sleep? Now that counts; read on.
(Get it? Evaluate “The Situation”. Ah man, I feel good today…today’s going to be a good day…)
Option 2: Never leave anything out in the open. It seems like the most obvious thing ever, but it’s a common reason for roommate drama. Just bought a bag of chips or a new bottle of hand sanitizer? Don’t leave it out on the counter! Even I’ve been guilty of using whatever is lying around; it’s habit!
Option 3: Talk. This always seems to be one of the most difficult things to do, when it prevents to many issues! When you very first move in (or even if you’ve been living together for awhile but have never had “the talk”), address the issue of sharing. I’ve living in houses where we all shared food and split the grocery bill, and other houses where it was basically every man for himself. Set some ground rules and stick to them. Who knows, your roommates might not even know they were technically stealing your stuff.
Option 4: Invest in some locks. Petty? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. It’s up to you: which would you rather be known as? The crazy roommate that locks up all their stuff? Or the crazy roommate that finishes the semester without having any of their things stolen. P.S., it’s not crazy to lock up your stuff. She’s stealing your eye-shadow? Lock it up.
Option 5: Confront. Notice I didn’t say “talk” here (you already did that, right?). This is where you talk directly to the person about your things being used. You’re basically accusing them, so make sure you have your facts straight. All your expenseive conditioner disappeared over Christmas break and Becky is the only one that didn’t go home for break? Plus her smells frickin’ amazing? Say it, and ask she not use your stuff without permission. It’s not bitchy, it’s realistic, just make sure you have good reason and do it respectfully.
Option 6: Fight back, the right way. Report her to your RA. Whatever.
Option 7: Fight back, the real right way. Sorry, but when it comes right down to it I tend to lean pretty hard to the passive-aggressive style of doing things, and in this case, you have two options:
1.) Steal her stuff. Your roommate drank all your milk? Drink all their beer. They’re using all your shower soap? Use all their shampoo. Found some of your clothes in her dirty laundry? Wear some of hers to class tomorrow and make sure she sees you in them. When she asks (she will), say something along the lines of, “Oh, sorry, I saw you wore my clothes so I thought yours were fair game.” Love it.
2.) Sabotage your stuff. When I was in 4th grade there was a girl who pretended to be best friends so she could copy all of my homework. One day, during a test, she leaned over to copy my answers; so I changed them all. I wrote in all the wrong answers, let her copy them, and then after she turned in her test I changed mine all back. Needless to say, she failed and the teacher even had to bring in her parents to discuss “the discrepancies between her homework and test score.” She never copied off me again. Immature? Yeah, but hey; I was in 4th grade, immature was the best I could think up.
So sabotage something of yours. More recently, I’ve filled liquid soap containers with spoiled milk and waited for the blood-curdling squeal that inevitably follows. In a way, you’re saying you’re on to them without ever having to actually confront them. Works like a charm.
Option 8: Frame them. If all else fails, kill a hooker, put the murder weapon under their mattress and call the cops. They’ll be out of your hair in no time.
What do you guys think? Anything I’ve missed?
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Strategies for Dealing with Roommate Drama
Now a few days ago I received a question from someone wondering about ways to handle roommate drama, specifically the rather abnoxious passive aggressive breed. I must say, I have had my share of roommate drama. My freshman year I lived in a dorm with 5 other girls, and my junior year (due to some emergency circumstances, aka a bad breakup) I ended up in a house with 8 other roommates (technically 9, if you count the practically living there boyfriend of one of the girls). And trust me, when there’s 9 or 10 people living in a house? You better learn how to deal with drama real quick, or there’s no way you’re ever going to make it out alive.
So for your convenience, I have narrowed down the roommate drama to five easy-to-use categories, and also for your convenience I have chosen two options for dealing with the drama: either the high road or the low road. Choose the option that best suits your situation.
The Kitchen Tyrant: This is the roommate that eats your food without asking, and then gets upset when you “return the favor”. Kitchen Tyrants are often very difficult to spot, as they typically blame their behavior on other roommates. Be vigilant though, soon you will notice your bags of chips only dissappear when he/she is home alone. A warning sign is passive aggressive notes posted on cabinets or food overly labeled.
High Road: Don’t eat her food, EVER. The second she even remotely thinks of tasting something of yours, ask for a swap. She ran out of milk and needs some for her cereal? Sure, but only if you can have some cereal to go with your overabundance of milk. Keep everything even, and above all, never, ever, ever, touch any food of hers.
Low Road: Cook an incredibly extravagant meal, and I mean all out. We’re talking chicken enchiladas, pot roast, maybe homemade chili (it is December, after all…) and all the accompaniments. Cornbread, spanish rice, garlic mashed potatoes. Don’t know how to make bbq brisket? Deal with it. Pull out the stops; call in some favors. This is war. And don’t forget desert; a triple-chocolate-death cake or something. Then, when she walks in and sees the spread, don’t let her have any of it. Say, “Sorry, but I only made enough for me, roommate #1, roommate #2, roommate #3, roommate #4, and roommate #5.” The smile politely and take a gigantic bite of triple-chocolate-death cake.
And don’t judge. You wanted low road, I gave you low road.
Plus if that doesn’t work you can always do what I did. The day I did this was the day my Kitchen Tyrant roommate moved out.
The Clean Freak: There is one of these in every single household. And to be fair, they are extremely useful. No one likes sitting around in a disgusting bachelor pad, and with 3 or 4 (or more) people living in a house, regular cleaning becomes essential. Especially for the guys (no joke your houses are terrifying).
Now, there is one main issue with this roommate, and that is their “dirty house” threshold is probably a lot lower than most peoples’. Therefore, they feel the urge to clean long before other roommates do, meaning they feel like they’re the ones doing all the cleaning, because they are the ones doing all the cleaning. No one else thinks it’s a problem, so no one else cleans. I am absolutely guilty of this. I’ll clean the bathroom when I think it needs cleaned; if it never gets to the point where I think it needs cleaned (because you keep cleaning it before it gets there), you will never see me cleaning the bathroom.
As a result, they will often assign “cleaning schedules.” Something like this:
And, since we’re all adults, this can come off as a little annoying. More than annoying actually; you’re not in grade school anymore, you don’t have chores. But having said that, here are a couple ways you can react.
High Road: Talk to them. Just ask why the “cleaning schedule” was made. Gather your other roommates at the same time so everyone can hash out everything out in the open. It might be that your super clean roommate is completely OCD and can’t handle so much as a speck of dust on the back of the toilet. In that case just humor her and wipe the bathroom down with a paper towel after you use it. It can’t be that difficult, and you come off as slightly more mature, even if it is just faking nice.
Low Road: Don’t do anything. Completely ignore the cleaning schedule until she approaches you like an adult. And by adult, we mean coming to you and asking for a little help around the house. That counts, and yes you should be helping out around the house. She’s not your mother, after all.
The “Quiet Time” Nazi: Ah, the QTN. This is the roommate who’s noise schedule revolves around her only. I’ve had many, many an encounter with this roommate. I once lived with a girl that wanted no lights on at night, so I would stay up in the living room and do homework when she went to bed, and expected the same to happen when I worked nightshifts and slept during the day. It didn’t though. She’d have people over, turn the radio on, talk on the phone in our room, it was a disaster.
High Road: Be quiet. Sorry, but there’s not a lot here to discuss. Be quiet and you shouldn’t have anymore problems.
Low Road: If you live in the dorms, you can push it clear until quiet hours start (usually around 10:00). But if you have your own place, I say use strength in numbers. If you’re planning on having a party, and she wants to relax in solitude, tell her too bad. People are coming over and if she wants quiet time than go to her boyfriend’s house. Or a hotel. Or just come downstairs and drink with everyone else for crying out loud.
The Diva: This is the roommate who thinks he world revolves around them. When they say “jump” you say “how high.” When they need something (first in the shower tomorrow) you are expected to immediately let them have it.
High Road: Offer to compromise, immediately. If they want something, offer a trade for it. That way they get what they want, and you get at least something out of the deal. No trade? No deal.
Low Road: Do the opposite. Sound a bit juvenile? It is, and it’s worth it. I once had a roommate like this and I was at the complete end of my rope. If she needed something I found a way to have that specific thing first. She wanted to watch American Idol? Well we were ALL already watching a Friends marathon. She wanted first shower? I’d have my ass up at 4:00 in the morning draining our apartment of hot water. Immature and a pain in the ass? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely.
The Total Basketcase: This is the roommate that is completely unpredictable. The one that wears a homemade viking helmet for protection against intergalactic time-traveling ninjas.
High Road: Befriend them in every way possible.
Low Road: Befriend them in every way possible, this is no time to be a hero.
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What are some ways you’ve dealt with roommate drama?