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Homesickness: How to Cure It
I’m not going to lie here, homesickness is a doozy. It’s a silent predator that complete sneaks up on you when you least expect it. Everything seems to be going along just fine, but before you know it the homework, lack of close friends, over-your-head professors, and hectic schedule all culminate into a perfect storm, until something completely meaningless (where did I put my red pen?) causes you to break down into a sobbing, incomprehensible mess. Don’t worry, I’ve been there, and it’s completely normal. And if you haven’t yet; you will.
So here are a few tips to combat the ever so depressing homesickness:
1.) Journal. Corny, I know, but incredibly useful. Journaling not only gives you a chance to unload the feelings you may feel embarassed to feel (I’d give anything to just sit in my old bedroom, listen to Kings of Leon, eat a plate of my mom’s homemade enchiladas and IM (insert name of high school best buddy here)). Plus, someday the evil case of homesickness hits again, this gives you something to go back and look at. It’s documented evidence that you survived the last time it hit, and will survive this time too.
2.) Call a friend from back home. Chances are, you’re not the only one that took off to school and left everyone behind. If you have a friend that went to a school somewhere else, call them. They are most likely going through the exact same thing you are right now.
3.) Call a friend at college. Same thing, they are probably going through the same thing you are (or have before) and know how you’re feeling. Give them a call, even if it’s just to talk about something completely unrelated, like last night’s episode of your favorite reality show.
4.) Do some of the same things you did in highschool. Did you go to football games with your friends in highschool? Catch a college football game. Were you a regular at the folfing course? The library? You should be able to do these same things in your town. And I can hear you now, “it’s not he activities I miss, it’s the people I did them with,” and I know, but every little bit helps.
5.) Visit home; later. This one really broke me out of my funk. I couldn’t afford to visit my hometown until Christmas, and when I did, it almost evaporated my homesickness. See the thing is, when you go to college, you begin to evolve, while your hometown stays exactly the same. Going home often makes you feel better because you realize that you’re growing, changing, and going places.
6.) Don’t make any huge decisions. Of course you miss your highschool sweetheart, and of course the first 3 weeks are going to feel devestating, so deciding to drop out of college so you can be together is an irrational decision. Wait until that initial homesickness wears off and you can make a well-thought out decision.
7.) Create your own rituals, traditions, and “had to be there” moments. One of the most crucial things about feeling homesick, is it’s often associated with a feeling of “people just don’t understand me here.” You’ll find friends, and when you do create your own little funny stories that other people just don’t get. I vividly remember getting drunk on May 4, and referring to the entire night as “Cinco de Fourko.” No one back home has any idea what I’m talking about, but my college friends and I all know full well that Cinco de Mayo is overrated; Cinco de Fourko is where the it’s at.
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What are some ways you cope with homesickness?